Walking for the Cure with Gratitude!

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. ~ Albert Schweitzer

Although a chilly day... we proudly walked, anyway!

Although a chilly day... we proudly walked, anyway!

October 2007

My Mom has participated in the “Race for the cure” in Palm Beach, Florida for at least the last 12 years. Her sister (my aunt) died of breast cancer about that long ago, so there is a deeper connection she has to the cause. This past January 20th, I felt an unusual compulsion to walk in it for the first time. From the minute my alarm clock went off to the moment we arrived at the site and got my t-shirt, my heart was pumping with a positive excitement to get involved in a great cause.

I couldn’t believe my eyes. Thousands of men, women and children of all ages were participating in this incredible event to walk in support of finding a cure for breast cancer. From survivors to relatives of survivors, they all made themselves known with pink signs posted on their backs. It was incredibly moving and I now understood why my mother always looked forward to doing it.

The jazzercise women on stage warmed the atmosphere up and got us all going. Many teams were cheering proudly, dogs walking and a spirit filled the air that was electric! It was hard not to notice the pink signs that were pinned on the back of shirts which said: “In Celebration for…” or “In Memory of…” Some people had one or multiple names, and many signs said “In Celebration of ME”. How great is that!

When we got back from our walk  mid-morning, thousands were assembled near the stage. It  all leads to this moment. Ten o’clock…  the time when the emotions are brought full circle and the reason we are all here.

Nancy Brinker, the founder of the Komen Foundation spoke eloquently to us about how far they have come with relentless research after 25 years. It was incredibly moving to hear her story of why she started it all for her loving sister that died of breast cancer, to her unwavering cause and determination to help others. She introduced the next segment and it was nothing short of an awakening.

The Survivors Celebration had an amazing power that could make the strongest men cry and strangers hug. The pink caps and pink shirts scattered throughout the crowd now began to come forward. I had no idea what my emotions were in for next, and then I understood. Through the cheering crowd, they were given an open passage to walk through and towards the stage. As many as could fit, walked up the steps.

They just keep on coming, hundreds upon hundreds… so many survivors! As my eyes were filled with cheerful tears, my mother leaned to me and said, “it’s truly amazing how many more survivors there are now, compared to when I first started walking.”

A week later, while in the Doctor’s office with my mother… she was diagnosed with breast cancer.



September 2009

January 2010 will be my forth year walking in Race for the Cure with Mom, and Mom’s third year of being cancer free. My attitude of gratitude multiplied after my first experience walking in the event, surrounded by a powerful energy called, “life”.

Our day to day worries, struggles and complaints truly mean nothing in the big picture of life. There is always another way to look at a situation. Mom and I did that before her first radiation after her lumpectomy. Although I had to be in California while she started her treatment, we spoke every day.

Just before her first appointment our conversation went like this,

“Hi Honey, how is California”. “It’s great Mom… you ready for your first… VITAMIN THERAPY?” She didn’t miss a beat, and played right along with me… “Why yes I am!” And from that conversation on her radiation became known as her “Vitamin Therapy”. Call it the placebo effect or just a better way to look at a situation.

It is a choice to have an attitude of gratitude, to see the sky mostly sunny and the glass half full. Life is a choice. And it’s all good! In our lifetime we will see a cure. Imagine a conversation one day like this…

“Hi honey, how’s everything?”

“Oh hi, Mom… everything’s great. I just woke up with this silly little breast cancer this morning. I’ll get those vitamins for it later.”

“Okay dear, glad to hear you’re doing well. Speak to you soon. Love you.”

“Love you too Mom!”

2009 and gratefully healthy!

2009 and gratefully healthy!

In Our Lifetime!

Keep the Faith, hope and gratitude for life  every day.



Gratitude and the athletic mindset development

Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life.                                –Christiane Northrup




The Power of Gratitude is an important aspect of attracting everything to you that you desire and deserve in your life. The power of gratitude will moves mountains for you. Whatever it is you want in your life, you must first be grateful for all you have in this very moment.

The most powerful Universal Law is the Law of Attraction. The energy (vibrations) that you resonate and project through your thoughts, feelings, and emotions determines your “vibrational frequency”, which attracts positive and negative to you. Feeling grateful for everything in your life right now, is a very powerful positive frequency. The events, situations, and circumstances that you attract are all by-products of the Law of Attraction, whether you are aware or not.

When you are in a sincere state of gratitude, your energy (vibrational resonance) is one of acceptance and harmony. You propel this energy and as a result project a much higher vibrational frequency which is what attracts to you the events, conditions, and circumstances that you desire. Are you aware of what you are projecting?

Think of yourself as a giant magnet. No matter what you are feeling, whether its love, fear, anger, happiness, anger, joy, gratitude, etc. you are in essence creating a magnetic force that attracts and draws to you events, conditions and circumstances which are in direct connection to what you are feeling. Fear of something creates a magnetic force that attracts more of what you fear. Expressing Gratitude for any situation projects a magnetic force that draws to you more of what you are expressing gratitude for.

Become empowered to express sincere gratitude for whatever is currently happening in your life. You must become aware of this power to receive all this is good and right for you in complete abundance. The Law of Attraction is there (just like the Law of Gravity exists) whether you acknowledge it or not. The fact that YOU have the power to create your life on purpose!

Perception vs. Reality

What you perceive to be true, is true (for you). Your perception of something going wrong is only your perception. It is only wrong thought and wrong perceptions that are responsible for creations that show up in your life in the form of events, conditions and circumstances that you perceive as “going wrong.”

It’s important to recognize and express gratitude for the fact that EVERYTHING in your life is a vision, a creation that YOU formed in your mind that became thoughts first and into beliefs.

Here are 7 Grateful thoughts for you to consider:

1. Breathe and Say thank you! Inhale say, “thank”, and as you exhale say, “you”. Do this when you first wake up in the morning as you get out of bed. Your lungs will thank you too!

2. Be grateful for your food. Stop and really look at your food before you eat it. Take in the smells and think about all the people it took to get that food on your plate.

3. Be grateful for your pets. Look in there eyes as you pet them. Show them you are grateful for their warm nature and guidance they share with you.

4. Be grateful for your family & friends. Be present and tell them how you feel in the moment. Time is precious, we never know when it will be our last time to dance, play, sing, laugh, share a meal.

5. Be grateful you have a home and show some gratitude by keeping it tidy and clean.

6. Bless your body. Take a few deep breaths and exhale slowly, giving thanks for your health and vitality. Thank yourself for taking care of it!

7. Connect with a higher place of gratitude. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on the fact that a power greater than you exists and is working through you.

What are you grateful for?

How can you focus on being more grateful today?

I am thankful for you reading my articles. I am grateful for the ability to convey a message of helping others through educating, enlightening and empowering. If you learned something from this article, pass it on. You’ll be grateful you did!

What are your thoughts? We’d love to hear from you.









An awakening of Footprints in the Sand

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An awakening of Footprints in the Sand

I remember reading this poem as a teenager and being moved by it back then. I was reminded of its significance again knowing there are times we need a little hand holding to guide us, and other times just need to be carried through the tough spots.

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Use Law of Attraction in Golf and Business

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Your conscious mind and subconscious mind are both within your brain with separate functions. The beauty is that you have some control of both of them. You may have heard the term, “conscious control” used before. That’s because our conscious controls part of the subconscious.

Your subconscious mind can be compared to a computer. Like a computer you can add and remove programs. Unlike a computer, your subconscious can take on huge quantities of information and process all of it at incredible speeds.

The first time you learn something new, you must think of how to do it consciously. Skills like learning to walk, feeding ourselves, and riding a bicycle, are usually learned by listening to or watching another do the skill so we can figure out how we can do it. I remember the first time I learned how to drive a stick shift. I thought I would never get it, as I jerked the car back and forth from one gear to the next. Of course it didn’t take long before I was shifting gears, shifting lanes and with a drink in my hand. Good thing we didn’t have cell phones yet! Once these skills have been learned and programmed into your subconscious mind, you no longer consciously need to think about it. Your subconscious takes over the automatic pilot part of your mind, unlike the first time you ever tried it, and allows you to perform without thinking of “how to”.

Your subconscious also takes care of your autonomic system. Can you imagine if you consciously had to think about every heart beat and every breath you took? That wouldn’t leave much time to drive a car! Your subconscious mind deals with hundreds of different tasks simultaneously among other responsibilities which allows the conscious mind for a higher plane of thinking, reasoning and learning.

Here is where the Law of Attraction comes in.

Our beliefs are usually formed (by us) and then become embedded into our subconscious. Your subconscious mind does not pass judgment; it only accepts what your conscious mind told it. Let’s use money as an example:

If you believe that poor people are good and rich are bad, or “money is the root of all evil” – your subconscious mind will have a difficult time letting you be rich because it believes that being rich would make you a bad person, and that money is evil and therefore not good for you! That in effect is the law of attraction, created by your thoughts, which became your beliefs. Consistent thoughts turn into subconscious beliefs, which is what we will attract into our lives. It’s time to get your own Skin in the Game!

On the flip side, subconscious programming can be very positive if you believe that it’s your right to be wealthy. Do you believe we were all put on this earth to live life with abundance? A great mind power wealth belief is having more money enables you to help more people.

I listened to motivational speaker Zig Ziglar many years ago and remember being so inspired by his message. He said that if you want be a millionaire than surround yourself around millionaires. If you want to move up the ladder in life, spend time with people that are either at the top or getting to the top. If you want to be a better golfer, play golf with better golfers.

The rich spend time with the rich?
The poor spend time with the poor?
The lonely spend time with the lonely?
The happy spend time with the happy?

To create new subconscious programming, find people who are already successfully running those programs that you want. If you want to move up the company ladder, have lunch with the higher-ups, and make sure you play golf with them!

Do what they do, imitate their beliefs and watch in delight as your new thought patterns begin to emerge. The first step is to become aware!

Let me know thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.

Randy Friedman, cartoon animation by Anthony Parisi
Keep Swinging


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Tips and Training aids to improve Your INNER golf Swing

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Don’t you just love when you are offered a free golf tip that you didn’t ask for?! Friends and spouses just want to help…  even if you didn’t ask. There are as many golf tips as there are golfers. Here are three basic Pro tips that everyone can use.


1) Stay Centered

Why? One of the most common problems with amateurs is moving (swaying) off the ball. With all of the other movements of a golf swing, it’s easy to let your head and body move off center. Because the ball doesn’t move until you hit it, the quieter your body stays over the ball the more solid you’ll strike the ball.

  • Keep your eyes fixed on a point on the back of the ball.
  • Keep your knees flexed throughout the swing
    • Straightened knees lead to swaying
    • Staying flexed and athletic allows better centering



2) HOLD Your Grip Don’t CLENCH it

Why? Tension in the hands means tension everywhere else in the body as well as in the swing. Tension in the hands and swing means compromised speed and direction. By holding your grip, you can also attain one of the most important parts of a golf swing, tempo and timing.

  • On a scale of 1-10, a smart grip pressure is 5  (It’s not too tight, not too loose it’s just right)
  • Maintain the same pressure from start to finish
  • Increase your swing speed with the same pressure
  • It is possible to swing fast without swinging hard!

guanto…oops… (Holey gloves are from pressure changes!)



3) Training aids help Practice

Why? If you want to improve, you must practice. Instead of guessing if you’re doing it correctly, let aids help you. Training aids will enhance what you are working on. You will be amazed at how fast a few lessons and some well selected golf aids will improve your game. Just look at the range at any tour event. Many of the Pros are hitting balls with a club on the ground for alignment, the least expensive training aid that you already own!


Before I formed Golf Mind Power, in which I teach mostly the mental game now, I taught golf at various country clubs. I had a few training aids that I would use to help my students, and even suggest they own a few of their own to continue the practice. Here are some of my favorites. Click on the name if you want to purchase it from Golf Around the World. They’ll even give you a 10% discount when you put “Friedman” in at check out. Cool, huh?


SWINGYDE – Boy I wish I thought of this one! An ingenious piece of plastic that clamps on to the golf club and lets the student FEEL the proper wrist hinge on the back swing and forward swing! It still is one of my favorite devices!


HEAVY HITTER DRIVER – One of my first teachers gave me this to get my tempo. You can’t help but swing smoothly with it. I love this more than the other heavy clubs because you can actually hit balls with it.


TARGALINE PUTTING SYSTEM – A great training aid for indoors and out on the green. I like that you can see your eyes are over the ball (which you can easily see over the string). This is an all around great product for improving your putting. And the hole is smaller which is great for focused attention on a small target.


YOUR INNER SWING – BOOK & MENTAL TRAINING AID (DOUBLE CD) PACKAGE - Learn how to improve your game the moment you improve your thoughts. It’s true that we always think before we hit the ball. The question is what are your thoughts, your pre-shot routine and your breathing doing to help you or possibly hurt you? Your Inner Swing is going to help you make the changes you need to improve you golf… and beyond. Let Your Inner Swing guide your outer swing to better golf.


Hope you enjoyed these tips and training aid suggestions! Feel free to leave your comments and questions below.

Randy Friedman, cartoon animation by Anthony Parisi

Keep Swinging!


My Pyloric Stenosis at six weeks old, Released with Gratitude!

(This article was originally published October 2007)

Pyloric stenosis is fairly common and affects about three out of 1,000 babies. Most infants who develop pyloric stenosis are usually between 2 weeks and 2 months old – symptoms usually appear during or after the third week of life. It is a narrowing of the pylorus, the lower part of the stomach through which food and other stomach contents pass to enter the small intestine. An affected infant begins showing symptoms when the pylorus is so thickened that the stomach can no longer empty properly. The first symptom of pyloric stenosis is usually vomiting. Projectile vomiting usually takes place soon after the end of a feeding.

A surgical procedure which involves cutting through the thickened muscles of the pylorus, is performed to relieve the obstruction. The pylorus is examined through a very small incision, and the muscles that are overgrown and thickened are spread to relieve the obstruction.
Why this article? This happened to me at six weeks old in August of 1965. And although it’s been 42 years since this major invasive (non-elective) surgery, it was brought to my attention today in a most profound way. It is my joy to share it and all that has now come out after all those years.

First, the details at six week old (of which I don’t recall a thing) that my mom emailed today me of what she remembered from that time long ago.

“Honey I can’t think of the Doctors name, he wouldn’t be around anymore as he was not a young man back then. You were six weeks old and stayed in the hospital almost 10 days. The operation was done in a hospital in downtown Manhattan, as the Doctor was associated with that hospital. You were operated on around 12 midnight since they had to call an entire staff in just for this Doctor. It happened to be on a Saturday night in the summer and everyone was away at the shore. My Doctor, Dr. Caruso got the entire medical team together. Your hospital stay was at Poly Clinic so Caruso could keep an eye on you. I came down from Mahopac everyday so I could feed you and make sure you were well taken care of. Dr. Caruso let me take you home a few days before ten days because I told him I could do a much better job then the hospital! Love Mom¦ what do you need all this for?

(I didn’t tell her yet why I wanted all these details after all these years.)

So now here is the “Why” in this article.

I have done a lot of work on myself over the years, inside and out. Being very athletic early on developed my can do attitude. I received many massages during and after going to massage school, worked for a wonderful Chiropractor, Trina Marx, who first introduced me to Applied Kinesiology (A.K.), been hypnotized using regression work (going back in time) many times, and even intense Holotropic Breathwork that incredibly moving from the inside, out.

I was ready for what going to happen next. Today I had a session with a very special healer, Dr. Greg Birsky who is a TPI (Titleist Performance Institute) Trainer, Chiropractor, Energy Worker, etc. Being that we have so much in common, (we both specialize in golfers), we are educating each other on our work and strengths and how we can help each other help our students/patients.

When we played golf together a few weeks ago, I enlightened him on his negative self-talk (which wasn’t horrible for most people, but is holding him back from improving by blocking his own potential. And we also talked about his resistance of letting his swing go. Being a left brain thinker (Doctor) he wasn’t allowing his right brain to “just play. Although the day was supposed to be about me helping him, he (being the analyzer) couldn’t help but notice my tendency to slide just enough that told him my Glute Medius (a hip stabilizer) was weak.

Back to today in his office in Darien, CT. After extensive muscle testing with Applied Kinesiology, he found enough weak muscles (yes the Glute Medius, he reminded me) that he then went and tested my Chakras. (You don’t have to know or even believe in the details, just understand we are all energy, that energy lives inside, outside and around us.) Well my energy was moving in the wrong direction. (Now if you’re still reading, great this will all come together now).

Since my background is pretty extensive in body work, he knew I would be open to learning more about myself, (which I always am). He knew about the Pyloric Stenosis from my chart, and said he wanted to start there. He said, Your energy is blocked, let’s see if we can release some old internal scaring. Well, the session was nothing short of profound, intense and releasing! It was a bit like a hypnosis session (or guided meditation) in that he brought me to a quiet place in my mind where I could go inside and find some silence. He guided back to the time of my surgery at six weeks old. As in hypnosis, the facilitator is a guide that opens the door, and it was up to me to walk in.

There I was, back at six weeks old, on the operating table. I saw myself on a cold steel table, with four hot bright white lights shining down on me, four people hovering over me… poking, prodding and tending to me. I actually felt the incision. While my mind was racing back in time my breathing was getting faster and deeper, and I could feel my heart pounding out of my chest. As Dr. Birsky was talking to me through the entire process, I also felt safe to let myself go, deal with, and release whatever came up.

He guided me into the recovery room and to a place of gratitude. (Here is the lesson… this is huge). Although I may have felt mishandled and they didn’t speak a language I yet understood (at six weeks old), it was time for me to forgive them. Forgive everyone.

It was time to release any left over scars with forgiveness and gratitude. I did… and it was amazing. The powerful release of gratitude gave me my power back that I didn’t even know I gave up!

As soon as I got to that wonderful place of gratitude and forgiveness, I knew I was freed. It felt like a sunset hoovering over a peaceful ocean at low tide. It was quiet.

There was a wave of release that flowed through my body and just then I felt my energy change. As unfathomable as it sounds, as I felt it, Dr. Birsky mentioned he felt my energy shift.

My breathing slowed down and my heart rate slowed back to normal, as I went around to thank everyone for saving my life. I forgive you for not knowing how to handle me… I thank you… over and over to each person at the hospital.

The moment I said thank you to my mother, I felt my eyes well up with emotion that released me back to adulthood and back into the room again. I released an emotional scar that I had held physically for so many years. It took me years as a child to wear a bikini because of the scar that runs vertically in the middle of my stomach. Then after some time I had a change of attitude, that I don’t care what people think, and I’m unique… and it makes for a conversation piece. Maybe that’s where I formed some my mind power principles as well! I’m okay just the way I am.

After the energy work session Dr. Birsky tested the weaknesses again and almost all of them improved profoundly, especially my Glute Medius! It’s very interesting to note that in the name Pyloric Stenosis, the word stenosis means; a constriction or narrowing of a duct, passage, or opening in the body. I am now aware that I had an emotional constriction in my heart from a long time ago, that never healed. As soon as I released my power to forgive and expressed gratitude for my life, I was able to release any negative feelings.

If you’ve experienced PS or know someone else that has, please share your comments below. Or if you have had a similar experience, feel free to share it! It’s always great to share and send a hug to others.

Randy Friedman, cartoon animation by Anthony Parisi




FYI… Did you know Actor, Will Ferrell Suffered from Pyloric Stenosis as a child. The scar is visible on many of the shirtless scenes he does.

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Get Tiger Focus with golf mind power

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Strategies to Help You Win on and off the Course

Tiger Woods is one of the greatest golfers on the PGA Tour today and possibly in the history of the game. Whether he’s competing on the golf course or running one of his many businesses, Tiger has learned to use the power of extreme focus and mind power in everything he does.

As the crowds gather around him on 18th green, Tiger’s determination and focus are obvious as he lines up his putt on the closing round of golf Sunday. He doesn’t bother to notice that his opponent is watching him like a hawk and the growing crowd is holding their collected breath in anticipation. He moves forward with purpose, lines up and sinks the 25-foot putt … what seems like magic to most of us, is expected by him. If only the same kind of determination and focus could be learned and applied to life. Think of how many business deals would end successfully. How many more sales would you close? How many more relationships would you build? How many challenges would you be able to overcome? Well, maybe there is a way

The following tips will not only help you sharpen your mental edge, but also help you cope with the challenges of work and everyday life. Here are a few strategies to help unleash the Tiger in you, on and off the golf course.

Breathe for clarity

When you find yourself in a challenging situation, whether it’s dealing with an unhappy client on the phone or feeling overwhelmed by a bad tee shot, this exercise will help you stay grounded and positive.

You can do this exercise either seated or standing.

  • Think of someone, something or someplace you love.
  • Experience the joy that accompanies thinking about that person, thing or place.
  • Close your eyes. (Yes, you can do this at your desk! It only takes a few seconds).
  • With your mouth closed, take a deep breath in through your nose. As you inhale, feel the breath extending down all the way to the base of your spine.
  • Picture the person, thing or place. Keeping your mouth closed, release the breath slowly through your nose.

Repeat this exercise three times.

This breathing exercise will help you think and see more clearly, while increasing the positive feelings to help move you through your day with ease. You can even make this a habit! Practice it whenever you feel stressed or overwhelmed.

Focused “in-sight”

How does Tiger Woods refocus after he hits the ball in the water, regain his focus after a camera goes off in the middle of his backswing, and maintain his laser-like focus to hit amazing shot after shot? He uses his breathing to ground him, his internal words to relax him and visualization of what he wants to happen. When you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed at work, or even outside of the office, you can do the following exercise to help you improve your “in-sight.

  • Give yourself a 30-second timeout. Just sit down and stop everything else.
  • Take three deep breaths in and out through your nose.
  • On a piece of paper, write down what you don’t like or don’t want to continue happening.
  • Now turn the paper over and write the outcome of what you do want.
  • Breathe in deeply and sit in silence with your eyes closed picturing your outcome as if it already happened.
  • Become aware of the things that are out of focus around you, and you will help bring your vision into focus.


Affirmations for a mental edge: Affirmations are a great way to improve your thoughts and become more aware of what you want to accomplish, on and off of the golf course. They are even more useful when they are repeated often. Here is a list of ten positive affirmations. Use this list or let them inspire you to write your own!

  • I have the ability to perform my work perfectly.
  • I enjoy being healthy in body and mind.
  • I love to feel happy in everything I do.
  • I am in charge of my life.
  • I am now open and receptive to all ideas.
  • I have definite, deliberate prosperous thoughts.
  • I give thanks for the realization of my desires and goals.
  • My goals come forth with perfect timing for me.
  • I have faith in myself and the people around me.
  • I create positive, creative thoughts and actions to improve my life.


Optional tip: Mind power nap

Do you ever feel like tuning out the world for ten minutes? You’ve got deadlines to meet, board meetings to prepare for and a headache that won’t go away. If you have a private office, or if you work from home, this exercise might be just right for you (but not at the risk of your job). A ten-minute power nap is the perfect antidote for a stressful day. Here’s how to do it.

  • Close your office door.
  • Set your watch or a ten-minute timer, so you wake up from the blissful state.Write down some beautiful places you’ve visited or seen pictures of.
  • Write down something you’d like to accomplish that day or that week.
  • Put on some soothing music.
  • Close your eyes, take three deep breaths and let your mind wonder to that beautiful place in your mind.

When you awaken, you’ll be refreshed, revitalized and ready to take on the rest of your day with complete energy.

These simple tips and strategies help drive the best athletes in the world to compete at the highest level. The successful ones know how to turn negative thoughts into positive empowering ones. Now you have the know-how as well. Thoughts like, “I’ll never get this project done by the deadline! I might as well give up now!” become, I have everything I need to get this project done on time. I look forward to the challenge!


You have the power inside of you to make things happen and improve your mental edge in your business and your life. Awaken the Tiger in you and watch your success grow!

Randy Friedman, cartoon animation by Anthony ParisiKeep Swinging!